Sounds like pure fiction, I decided. Author Dr. John Gray of Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus compared a man’s shopping experience to going on a hunt. If a man were shopping for a shirt, he would take his place at the highest perch in the store akin to a deer stand, determine the location of the prey, nab it, bag it at the checkout and leave. Five minutes tops.

Compare that to a woman scanning the horizon for layout, scouting out numerous choices, evaluating which is best, taking in the sights, smells, and enjoyable company as she savors the entire shopping experience. Do you know of any men who boast: “I have a PhD in shopping”? No, but some women do.


How would Dr. Gray’s theory test out in my family?


One summer, I worked at a resort, choosing a bicycle for transportation and exercise. But shopping space limited to a backpack got heavy.


“Could we please stop at the store?” I pleaded with my strong, silent type son as we came back from a canoe trip in his four-wheel drive.


“What for?” he wanted to know. “Didn’t you go there yesterday?”


“Yes, but I need to pick up my pictures.” While shipments, seasonal specials, and great choices in the deli danced in my head, I remembered that new earrings, outdoor wear and sports clothing would come in today. His car held a lot more than my backpack.


My son rolled his eyes. “What are they of?”


“You know –Alaska. The stuff I’ve been doing.”


“What’s so important about getting your pictures now?”


“Stopping here now saves me a six-mile bike ride. Besides, I paste them up every week.”


He thought about it long and hard.


“Maybe you need something at the store, too?” I asked hopefully.


Finally he pulled into a parking space. “Go ahead. I’ll be waiting.” Just to remind me I was only going in for the pictures while his vehicle incinerated a gallon of gas, my son held tight to the wheel with the truck’s engine running.

The hunt, seize and leave shopping style wasn’t what I had in mind. It wasn’t as much fun.


Okay, Dr. Gray, you’re right. Men and women do think differently about shopping – and many other things.


But in spite of our choices in shopping style, gender, age, language or lifestyle, we all can be united as one in another way.


In Jesus’ words, “My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you.” [John 17:20-21.]


We become one and share a common bond as believers in Jesus as the son of God.

If you don’t know how to do that, a simple prayer can open the door.

Like this:


Dear Jesus:

I believe you are the son of God. You died to pay for my mistakes.

I invite you to come into my life, forgive my sin, and make me a part of the family of God. Come into my life. Take control.

Thank you for your gift of eternal life. I also welcome your Holy Spirit to live in me.

I ask this in Your name.  Amen.


No matter who you are or what your shopping style, Jesus always welcomes you into his heart and arms.


[Jo Russell is a Christian teacher, speaker, author of many articles, contributor to several anthologies, and Which Button Do You Push to Get God to Come Out? A Humorous Devotional for Women, Intermedia Publishing  2011. For more chuckles and to hear a speech, enjoy excerpts of her book and tips, check her entire website and weekly blog on]

A big congratulations to residents of Wilkes Barre, Pennsylvia who for the past two weeks have topped out numbers on out of town blog enthusiasts! Contact me with your mailing address at for your free panic button!



About Jo Russell

Jo’s humor, inspirational stories, articles and devotionals have spanned more than 40 years, with several national writing contest awards for humor. She's a contributing author in Chicken Soup for the Soul—Shaping the New You and Heavenly Humor for the Dieter’s Soul.

Contact Jo

Find Jo on Twitter and Facebook. To schedule Jo as a speaker or to discuss your writing project and receive a free quote, call her at 928-536-2479. Or contact her using the website Contact Form.

Feeling Blue?

That can't last. Listen in on four talks of Jo's to banish those blues:

How Do I Count My Blessings When the Toilet is Overflowing?

The Choice We Have Between a Dead Egg and a Live Savior

Never Give Up!

Can Kermit and Miss Piggy Marry and Live Happily Ever After?